One thing you should never do is box yourself into an identity. I promise you that thinking you’re a particular way is only based on your circumstances. You might not know this because you’re not out of what you’re used to, but just give it time. It’ll surprise you what you’re capable of when you’re out of your comfort zone.

I must confess that it’s scary, and most of the time you’ll have no idea what you’re doing. You might not even recognize who you are, but that’s just because you’re no longer what you call yourself. And it’s okay; eventually, you’ll realize that you needed to be different in a different phase, no matter how overwhelming it was.

But you must not lose your joy or forget who you are. I know because being miserable and being an adult are like two sides of a coin, and if you are not intentional about being in your moments, you won’t be. The reason you shouldn’t forget who you are is that there is no growth without pain. How would you know you’ve grown if there’s no past self to compare to?

Or how would you know you’re no longer happy if there were no memories to look back at? Not that you should dwell on who you used to be, but use it as a yardstick for your growth. You cannot allow your former days to be your best days, no matter how hard it is right now. Neither can you limit yourself to who you used to be.

My point is, you’re as fluid as time itself. You can change as many times as you need to. You can go back on your word if you know better now. You can also start again as often as you want because you’re not a statue. You’re a moving, living being who has the power of choice always.

Every new day will require something different from you. You’ll save yourself a lot of mental energy if you don’t approach everything with a static mindset or think you’ll get through today the same way you did yesterday. For me, the biggest hurdle is trying to understand everything that happens; maybe through understanding it, I can handle it better.

But I am learning to be okay with things I do not understand and to accept that not everything needs to make sense. I just need to get through it somehow, even if it means changing who and what I am used to. And so should you. It might be scary to think people can’t keep up, but you should be worried about accepting yourself first. The people who love you will either accept you or call you out if it’s crap.

So please, do not tie yourself to an identity that has no potential for growth or is a deficit to your character. Keep redefining yourself as many times as you need to; you don’t owe anyone anything, but you owe yourself a lot of things. One day at a time, you can improve your experience here.

Here’s a song I’m in love with right now – Devil in a Dress – by Teddy Swims.

Please, take good care of yourself this week❤️