Being an adult is tough, but that’s generalizing the enterprise. Let’s get to the specifics; dealing with emotions as an adult is one thing that makes it tough.

Your feelings have an entire spectrum different from when you were a child. You can be happy right now, but there’s a range of that happiness, maybe thrilled or just not sad. Whereas when a child is happy or sad, there is no variation to it.

This generation has more access to information that any other before it and has led to some misinformation. An example is putting so much emphasis on being able to read and deal with other peoples’ feelings (emotional intelligence) that you barely know what to do with yours except you have a therapist.

Our feelings are not only physical, they stem from the inside. Like heartbreaks, you feel the pain in your heart, but you’re also really hurt.

Feelings like sadness, grief, pain, relief, happiness, anxiety have no specific physical manifestation except the one you interpret it to be, but you feel it regardless. No one tells you how to cope either except the cliché don’t make important decisions when you’re happy or sad.

One other thing that’s highly inappropriate is telling people not to feel, “don’t be sad” or “showing emotions is a sign of weakness” I find it very insensitive. The reason its normal is that only pleasant emotions are acceptable.

Bad feelings are almost a curse and evil through and through. But emotions are two sides of a coin. You don’t appreciate the times you’re happy unless you’re sad. You have no regard for good health until you fall sick. They work hand in hand to keep you conscious of your feelings. That’s why bad feelings shouldn’t be relegated.

They are important, but this misconstrued narrative of always being happy has led us through the harder route of being an adult. We have become obsessed with being happy that we forget how fleeting the emotion is.

So we are in a vicious cycle of chasing after happiness, not wanting anything to do with negative emotions which aren’t necessarily evil but just the other side of the coin.

Unpleasant emotions exist to help you appreciate the good ones better, not make you feel less than a well-functioning adult.

When you feel like crying, please let it all out, even if you have to where no one is watching. When you feel disappointed, cheated, hurt, heartbroken, or grieved, take your time to understand the cause and effect of the situation. Don’t go off chasing the next high again.

Brushing these negative feelings aside turns you into a bitter adult that makes you lash out at the clouds for having the guts to rain. No, you don’t have anger issues, you just keep pretending to be emotionally stable when you’re not.

It’s not wrong to feel, it’s wrong to fake your emotions. The older you get, the more variations of emotions you feel. It doesn’t mean you suck at being an adult; it means you’re human and feeling comes with the package.

It’s not a choice thing where you only choose happiness, neither is it a glitch in your brain’s normal function. It’s just the flip-side of the same coin.

On days when the light gets bright, relish the moments,and on days when it gets dim, don’t forget it’s also fleeting.

Enjoy the rest of your week🥰

Song for the week – Skyline – Khalid