Hello there, it’s been a while. I apologize for my inconsistency and I have excuses, but thinking about it now, I realize they might be invalid. I write about what happens in my life. Some days there’s nothing worthwhile to tell you and others I could write an entire novel from it.

I guess that excuse makes a little sense. Today, I’ll be telling you something personal. I’m doing that often these days and I really don’t know why, but I’ll tell you when I figure it out.

Peer pressure, that’s what I want to tell you about and I won’t bother you with what it means because it’s not an alien term but I want you to be weary of people who do not feel peer pressure or who claim not to.

They might have given up on themselves, or they’re lying. Peer pressure is not necessarily evil, as some of us might think. It depends on the context in which you think about it. It’s like an unseen force pushing you to live up to par with your peers and as long as the earth rotates round the sun, there’s never an end to it.

The only other thing that could put an end to it is if everyone was no longer unique in their own way, if we all face the same problems and deal with the same challenges. Where’s the fun in that? 

As long as humans exist, there will be standards. If not, what’s the point when we’re all going to die, anyway? To make living worthwhile, we set standards that measure the quality of our lives. Here’s what I’m saying: if cars were to only move us from point A to B, what’s the point of having a Mercedes, Porsche or Lamborghini?

If phones were to stay connected, why do I have to spend more on an apple product if there are options that do almost the same thing? If everyone could afford a visit to Santorini every weekend, what’s the hype about?

Standards. That’s what it is. We need to grow, to move, and to do that, we need to put things in place that show that we are. That’s why when you want to buy something new, you look for a better version of what you had.

Therefore, peer pressure will always be something you and I have to deal with at every stage of our lives. Because the only other thing you know outside your story are the standards set by the world.

So, when you see your peer who owns a car, is happily married, has kids, perfect skin, runs a successful business, follows their passion and hits it big, vacations every other day or looks like they have life figured out, you get the funny feeling (peer pressure)

You ask yourself questions like, what am I doing with my life? Or God when? Or am I a stick? 😂

It’s totally okay to get the funny feeling. You just have to be careful about the choices they lead you to make. Because you never truly know someone else’s story and what you’re seeing is just a specific part of their life (standards), not the entirety of it.

I said I was going to share something personal with you. Maybe it’ll help you understand how different we are and that what really matters is your story and what you make of it. Here’s a list of people that make me feel peer pressure.

Soldiers – I’m trying so hard to fight my battles, it takes all of my time and resources and then there’s someone who looks past themselves and chooses to fight for their country or a just cause😲 That is awesome😵‍💫

Women who have their kids before 30 – Maybe this is cliché, but I really want an impressive body, even when I’m older. As a woman, one of your best bets is to have your kids early, so yeah, that too.

People who drive trucks – I love trucks, I don’t understand why people drive cars when they’re trucks. It hurts me specially to see people own or drive them when I don’t. Who gave them the right?🥺

People who live in movable trucks – I like mysterious vibes, to get that you can’t live in the same place for too long. A few months and you’re off to a new location. I love the freedom it gives, the thrill of travel and the novelty of new places. Some people have all that and I don’t 🥺

People that have flawless skin –  Mtchew, is that all there is to life? Flawless skin won’t put food in your mouth oh😏 It’s not that important🥺Okay, just give me one tip😞, how about half? A quarter? Urrrgggggh!

Writers/Authors – That’s a given, right? I’ll get there, eventually.

So yeah, that’s me, but I won’t make the wrong choices because I don’t have these things now, neither should you. Take your time because in a few more years, they’ll look a lot more different.

Thank you for reading through☺️ See you soon!🥰