We have two extremes, live selfishly in the name of self care or relegate ourselves to the backseat with no care.

It’s almost hard to strike a balance. With the state of our world now, balance feels like pressure.

Isn’t it amazing? We tell each other, love yourself, take care of yourself and we have so many rules, to-do lists on that. But the minute that glass cup slips from your hand, your default response is how stupid you are.

In my previous article about self-love (you can catch up here) – https://bit.ly/3n0HAzG we talked about how you’re the one you spend most of your time with in your lifetime and how important self relationship is.

When you don’t say nice things to yourself, it’ll be hard to acknowledge nice things about someone else. If you don’t trust yourself enough, the word faith is alien to you.

There are people who live egotistically. It’s always about them first, although there are situations where you are priority and it’s a non-negotiable. Our social construct requires you to take other people into consideration.

What self-love means to these people is entitlement to other people’s opinion. They say “this is who I am, I’m okay with it and you have the right to your opinion” but a differing opinion is not pleasing.

They want the world to accept them and their excesses. Regardless, it’s all about them. 

Who is the dearest person to you? How do you treat that person? Take a minute to reflect on that.

What do you think will happen if you treat yourself like that too?

We like to punish ourselves, most times unconsciously, telling ourselves we are undeserving of good things, so why the nice treatment?

It’s hard to take compliments. We take two days of the prescribed dosage and abandon the rest, eat unhealthy foods or recline cowardly from the world.

We think we are not worthy, maybe because of a past we have chosen not to forgive ourselves for, or every other person being more important than we are. And most recently, thinking we are better than everyone else.

All these negate how we treat ourselves, and it is no longer a valid way to live. Your body and mind are not just something you own, it’s something you have to be intentional about and treat with delicacy.

It’s something you have to be accountable for.

Start with yourself. Take care of yourself. Define who you are. Refine your personality. Choose your destination and articulate your being. As the great nineteenth-century German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche so brilliantly noted, ‘He whose life has a why can bear almost any how’ – Jordan Peterson.

Treat yourself like someone you were responsible for helping.

Song pick of the week – FROM NOW ON – Hugh Jackman & The Greatest Showman Ensemble

Have a week full of good surprises guys🥳🥳 Much love🥰 and don’t forget to share with someone.