Hi! 🥰🥰Welcome back to Grace’s blog, thank you for being consistent and always letting me have a part of your time. To my new readers, it’s such an honour to be graced with your attention and the presence of your mind, I hope this will not be the last time.

For many of us, everything seems to be our fault. If this was certainly not the case, then we will not be who we are, nor do what we are doing right now.

We all use the phrase – “it’s not your fault or their fault” or we can extend to the part where we say “if not that… you can’t do this or this will not be happening” 

Yes, we are aware. Cut it out, it’s clearly not our fault but yours. Can we breathe now? Thank you.

This is what I call the blame game, and for many of us, we have dramatically evolved into being comfortable with apportioning blames to abstract things or sometimes ourselves.  Conveniently, we ignore the fact that  we are major contributors or enablers of those factors, and by extension the situations we find ourselves in. 

 Living this way is just doing things for the wrong reasons, and sadly, one will never be happy this way.  We have programmed our minds to think that if the circumstances were different one’s situation would be too. Adherence to this viewpoint means that achieving happiness in who we are or whatever we are doing or at any moment will be impossible and consequently, we might never be enough for ourselves. 

Why do you brush your teeth in the morning every day? Is it just to avoid the embarrassment of having mouth odour? Just a morning ritual? Or a routine to achieve the confidence you need to take on the day? They are all valid reasons, but are they the right ones?

If it’s to avoid the embarrassment of mouth odor, what happens when you eat the wrong thing during the day, like garlic. If it’s just for the sake of a ritual, what happens when you skip the ritual? Or an eclipse turning day to night?

If it’s to achieve confidence to begin your day, if you did not, would you still be confident? 

We all have reasons why we do things and everything is directed towards our pleasure. But being an adult requires you to do things just for their own sake, not for the reward or pleasure in doing them. That means doing things for the right reasons and not constantly singing it’s not your fault.

If you don’t make who you are, or your current situation worth it, the person or situation you want that you think would have been better will never be enough either.

So don’t work just because you were not born a billionaire and lifting a finger should have been the maid’s job. Work because you have to build yourself up.

Don’t do things because if you had your way you would rather not, do them because you want to make the best out of your situation, not playing the victim at every chance you get.

Hey there!! It’s going to be a great week 🥰🥰 thank you for reading through 🙏🏽 Don’t forget to like comment and share😌 See you next week 😉

This week’s song pick👇🏽

NEVER ENOUGH – Loren Allred