The key reason you should start writing your thoughts down is that you will no longer be able to lie to yourself. You can say whatever you want or say exactly what people want to hear, but it all flows from your heart, and the best way to learn how your mind works is to see how you think, especially in moments when there are no other parties involved.

You know those scenarios where you cannot comprehend how some people think; in fact, you think it should be illegal to reason that way. I bet you can say that about yourself sometimes when you write down your thoughts consistently. You’ll always be a good person as long as you keep living inside your head.

Writing down your thoughts dissolves the subjectivity and bias that come with your perspective. Not that you’re writing for someone else to read, but there’s something about looking at your life unfold like a movie. You might be too busy to notice that you always lie about a particular thing if you don’t see the pattern.

I am not saying to start writing a book or an autobiography, but I know you could use some more clarity. Starting from your outward actions will only drain you. If you think just switching your mindset will work as well, you’re wrong. Like it or not, your patterns are your habits, and your brain will almost always choose the easy way out by doing what it is used to.

You cannot fix something that you do not know is a problem. You need more accountability to clear the rubble from your mind. There are so many things that you need to consider in being a properly functioning adult. What you eat, where you live, how you look, who you’re with, stability, mental health, social life… the list is endless. But you do not consider yourself in all this.

There are so many variables, but there’s only one you. Sorry to break this to you, but the variables won’t improve if the deciding force doesn’t. I started writing around 14, usually at the back of my notebook in a boring class. After a while, I noticed I only wrote about other people, what they did to me, or how terrible or good of a person they were.

I never wrote about myself because I barely knew anything about me, but I was one to go about judging everyone with my pen. Seeing the pattern made me realize that I was the terrible one for being a judge of character when no one asked for my opinion. Eventually, I put the spotlight on me, and we’re here now.

It can be overwhelming to get an accountability partner. It takes a lot of intentionality and courage to be truly vulnerable and transparent with someone else. You don’t have to do that if you’re not ready; just get a pen and a paper and maybe start by describing your day in one word. Be your own judge; see yourself as a spectator of your life. Would you really be okay with who you are now for the rest of your life? Is there truly no better way to live?

I believe there are reasons, experiences, or even traumas that make everyone act the way they do. You cannot blame yourself for what has happened to you, but you are responsible for what happens through you. A vital part of that responsibility is to understand who you are, and you cannot do that if you don’t know how you think.

Song of the moment – Budapest by George Ezra.

I hope the rest of June brings you joy❤️