I have never cared about age and will always make bants about it. Thoughts like I am getting older and have to do this or that never really stay on my mind. I’m just grateful to be here every day, to be honest. As much as this can be a great mentality to nurture, it has its downsides (not my opinion, just trying to be objective).

So, based on the narratives I have come across, my mentality shuts me out of reality. I don’t see things as they are but as I want to see them. That makes it sound like I am living in an illusion, but trust me, I have my own arguments.

First, I do not think anyone sees things the way they are. Aside from sizes, colors, or anything else based on facts, you will always interpret everything from your perspective. Now, where’s the reality in that? The next time someone tells you to be realistic, tell them their filter is harsher than yours; maybe they’ll relax.

On a more profound note, they may be right, and you might be skipping through life feeling like you are not noticing things, but all you’re doing is ignoring, and it’s going to catch up with you. Now, that’s the scary part for me. How do you know what is “delulu,” what is real, and what are other people’s projections?

Second, do you know how hard it is to be a stable human being? I mean, all the “stables” you can think of, physically, mentally, emotionally, don’t even get me started about financially. If creating joy in your small world is hard enough despite all the ”unstables”, how would you cope if you were facing it without some personal filters?

Back to getting older, the first part of being a cool adult is accepting that you are an adult and will be for a while. One of our mistakes, as I am also guilty, is to still think we are not responsible for our lives by holding on to characteristics that make us less accountable. Putting age aside is okay, but you cannot completely ignore it.

Ignoring it makes you feel like you have all the time in the world. This has nothing to do with living in your moment, but are you sure you’re not living your future, too? We all want to be carefree, but at what cost? Enjoy your free time now, and work to the bones when your knees weaken?

Run away from commitment now and cannot sustain a relationship with your kids in years to come? As much as I don’t want to say this, my guy, it’s time to be realistic (cringe). Some things are best figured out now that you have the liberty of choice. You don’t want to get to a point where life conditions you, and you’re out of options. “Delulu is not always the Solulu.”

Here’s a song from my fav for the week – If I’m Lying – by Burna Boy. Take good care of yourself, see you next week!