At least once daily, you come up with another version of life you could live right now in your head. This is usually based on an experience after you have decided. You wonder if things would’ve been different if you had gone with the other option.

Sometimes you even regret your current choice and convince yourself it would have been better to go another route. For me, it’s a coping mechanism, oh that didn’t work, well option B next time. But I’ve realized there is no next time, because no two occurrences will ever be the same and if by the tiniest chance they were; you’re not the same person anymore. The first time has changed you.

At every point you think the other option will have sufficed; I like to assume that you believe in parallel universes. That you can somehow see yourself living out the alternative clearly, but this time with only good consequences, hopefully.

But there’s a part of this thinking process we always leave out, the what if part? What if it’s worse, not better? If you come up with only excellent possibilities, what happens if I flip the coin? Remember, there are always sides to every story. That shiny side you’re trying to sell to yourself might just be a disguise for chaos.

Except you’re a Marvel fan or have proof in parallel universes. We all exist in this moment and I have something to tell the you of right now. I hope you are not closing your mind off to the endless possibilities that each choice you make creates.

Life is not a two-way traffic, it’s a view of central Lagos from an airplane. Each route leads to multiple others. It’s like a chain reaction. Each action leads to another. If you choose to make healthy decisions now, you increase your chances of living a better life and if not…

Although sometimes there’s a sudden change in reactions, where it doesn’t depend on your actions, life just insists on serving you lemons. Any decision you make in those moments still keeps the chain running. Each door you open shuts others and there’s usually no going back. For every no, there’s a yes, and for each yes, a no. This is where wonder comes in.

I like to imagine wonder as the perfect guy or girl. He never approaches when the journey is smooth, but at crossroads. You know the tall, dark, handsome type and with a sweet smile says “You know we could have been great together, if you had chosen me instead”

Oh, the chills😁 well, clearly he’s lying because men… 😂 (I’m joking, don’t come for me☺️) but the damage has been done. So you become occupied with the what if thoughts. Maybe it could have turned out great. I mean, look at him looking all radiant.

Your mind steadily drifts away from your present into a wandering unknown. You doubt yourself for the choices you made, forgetting that decisions are not momentary and isolated but a sum of all others so far.

He’s not an all round bad guy, there’s one thing he does well, and that’s opening up your mind to possibilities. There are so many things that you could do right now instead of reading this and that’s why he exists. If you’re bored with this, he’s currently giving options, but he has timing issues.

Why wasn’t he here before you were bored, before you opened the link, or before it only seemed like you had two options? As long as your mind exists, he’ll always be here, and look on the bright side, you get to see a hot spec now and then.

Every choice you make leads to others, but at every turn, believe you’re making the best one, irrespective of what wonder says. He’s only there to suggest and make you dream bigger. Don’t let him rob you of your moment. Right now, you’re living your best life and doing the best you can, and that’s enough.