Okay Grace, I don’t have kids yet. What are you driving at today?

Relax, I’ll tell you. Before that, I’d like to you to acknowledge that you are someone’s child, and there’s someone reading this who’s raising one.

The 12 rules for life, was not only to tell you how to live life, that would assume you’re the only one in the world. It equally emphasizes how important relationships are and the huge part they play in your existence.

So, yes kids, if you don’t have them now, you will someday and you need this to cope. There are things your parents do not approve of for you, so also will your kids.

Some adults go lengths to prove a point to their parents, while some are products of childhood traumas that never healed. Others don’t have good relationships with their parents or vice versa.

One thing is true, there are no perfect parents or perfect children. We’re all growing through life until the day we are no more, and your children or parents are the strongest ties (by blood) you’ll ever have.

The way a child behaves will tell you how well trained or not the child is. Don’t forget that who you are today reflects who your parents are, even if it’s the tiniest bit. Yes, you have a mind of your own now, but you formed your values from theirs as the bedrock.

So also will your children reflect your values. It’s a simple cycle, you train and teach your children based on your knowledge of how to live life. Your parents did the same, and so will your kids.

How then do you ensure you’re not passing on the wrong things? I have two questions for you;

1. What are the values you absorbed from your parents? Did you refine them or do they still work?

2. If your children turned out exactly like you, would you say you did a good job?

Working and improving yourself applies not only to you, it’s what you teach your children. Don’t spoil them. You’re responsible for raising respectable adults who can function properly on their own. Don’t fuck it up.

Clear rules make for secure children and calm, rational parents. Clear principles of discipline and punishment balance mercy and justice so that social development and psychological maturity can be optimally promoted.

Clear rules and proper discipline help the child, and the family, and society, establish, maintain and expand the order that is all that protects us from chaos and the terrors of the underworld, where everything is uncertain, anxiety-provoking, hopeless and depressing.

There are no greater gifts that a committed and courageous parent can bestow. Do not let your children do anything that makes you dislike them.

Song pick for the week – ENERGY – Buju

Have a week full of joy 🤩 See you next week!