Hi! 🥰 Welcome back to Grace’s blog 🥳 thank you for being consistent and always letting me have a part of your time. To my new readers, it’s such an honour to be graced with your attention and the presence of your mind, I hope this will not be the last time.

We all have had what we would simply refer to as bad days, and if permitted to recount, we might realize that those would be regarded as the best days by some of us.

Everyone wants to be in control, even if it’s a teeny tiny part of their lives, like what you choose to do with your 24 hours, what to wear, eat, where to go, what to say or what not to.

 As an adult, your choices have never been more limited, you could cry to get what you want as a kid but now, your job, your community, family, friends and environment all have a part to play in the choices you make, it’s not just what you want anymore.

It’s usual for us to crave and force control of situations that we absolutely have no control over. For instance, because work rules state that sneakers are not allowed at work- and they have no drip in my opinion because of that😏-, you take it out on the weather, “oh why should it rain? I’m not wearing sneakers, stupid rain”🤬

Meanwhile, it wasn’t really the fact that you could not determine the weather that hurt, it’s why on earth you cannot wear your favorite ‘air force’ to work in the first place. But because we desperately crave control, we let the rain ruin our day, fussing over your mascara not being waterproof 🙄

Bad things will always happen, that’s not a curse, it’s a fact, and by that I mean things that will mess up your plan just to let you know you’re really not in charge here and you do not have as much control as you think or want to have. What we do have control over is our reaction to these situations.

First, we need to stop wasting energy on things we can’t control, you’re really going to need the energy on bad days, what’s the point of being angry at a stone you stubbed your foot on, yeah, no point at all. Watch your feet next time and move on.

Furthermore, (It felt cool typing that though🤪) unexpected situations are more common than you would imagine, and it’s okay to be overwhelmed but it’s not okay to remain that way.

Sometimes I’ve had the worst days, other times good, bad or could be better. I have an entire spectrum to classify my days, yes, and I know how much will power you need to suck yourself out of bad feelings, because bad days make you feel bad and vice versa.

However, bad days tend to linger more and when good things happen, it feels fake, your mind reminds you that there may be bad lurking around and you shouldn’t get too comfortable so you do not allow yourself to feel good about your good days.

You might lose people, get sick, go broke, get heartbroken, and a lot of other things. I’m not here to shield you from that reality. I just want you to carefully pick out what you give the power to affect you.

Objects, abstract things, the weather, people and a lot of things you worry about ( you know them, don’t pretend😒) don’t deserve the power you give to them. It’s like picking an outfit but this time picking what you should care about.

Pick what you can control and fix, don’t get sad over what you can’t. Don’t be that person that gives a fuck about everything, you really don’t have that much time.

Heyyyy😌😌 thank you for reading through, I really hope you took this personally because that’s what I want. I would appreciate your comments and for you to share with someone.

Our song pick for the week is from someone I call a musical genius and is meant to help you get through bad days👇🏽

FLOATING THROUGH SPACE – Sia ft David Guetta

Enjoy! And have the most amazing week guys🥳